Breaking up with someone will hurt in the beginning but it isn't the end of the world. You had a life before you met this person. It may not have been all fun and games but you were living and breathing on your own before they stepped into your life. You will learn to cope and be on your own again.
I'm not saying it's going to be easy, and it may be some of the hardest days/weeks/months/years that you think you have ever encountered, but you will overcome it.
I know many people, many of my female friends, who can't seem to be alone. They have to be with someone to make themselves feel complete. I can't really understand their perspective because I accept and savor whatever status I am in... single or taken. Sometimes you do feel like crap in either position because you tend to see the perks of the opposing one, but generally you are OK.
Sometimes I think I'm the only female that thinks it's OK for me to be single. Even my family is pushing me to get a boyfriend... none of them have a reason for wanting me to get one, they just say I should get one. I'm not looking but if it happens, it happens. Something I've learned when I was younger was, you don't NEED someone else to make you feel happy or complete.
To say you are happier when you are only in a relationship is not a good mentality to have. Did you ever stop to think why you were unhappy while being single?
People are convinced that receiving love from others is what validates us and it's not. You have to love yourself in every context, good and bad. If you can't, how do you expect someone else to?
If all you emanate from yourself are your negativities, that is all that will project into your relationships (friendships and love interests) because you have yet to deal with it on your own.
I guess I just always feel out of place because people think my views on love & life are sometimes unrealistic. Perhaps they are. But I don’t plan to settle down with someone, unless I know (or at least feel that I know) it’s right.
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